I think a lot of women don’t even know how to answer this question. They have an understanding of what they like and dislike but sometimes those things contradict each other.
Here’s a fascinating thought – “What women want and what they’re attracted to, are not always the same thing”.
Women think they want someone who has a good sense of humor, who’s affectionate, unselfish and so on, but strangely enough most times, this ‘nice guy’ falls into the ‘friend’ trap. She has no real ATTRACTION towards him.
I know a whole heap of guys who are locked in with this ‘nice guy’ image. It’s like having a curse upon them.
What it really comes down to is confidence in ATTRACTING women and NOT befriending them. The two are clearly poles apart.
The way men look at women is much different to the way women view men. In most cases, men consider all female friends as a possible partner in bed. Women however, DON’T think this way.
Women place men in either the ‘attracted’ or ‘not attracted’ group. But here’s the kicker, attracted can be created even if visually a man does not appeal to a woman.
After the initial ‘looks’ factor fades, women will look for these things in a man:
- Security – can he offer this, either financially or emotionally?
- Connection – Is there only lust, or is there a deeper connection? Are there similar interests, hobbies or passions?
- Attraction – again, not always physical but, is he confident? Is he secure, does he like himself? Does he ‘lead’ while you’re out in a public place?
- Intimacy – is he loving? Is he too clingy? Is he selfish in bed?
Women will be drawn more towards a man who is confident, but what they really want is a guy who is secure in his own skin and is able to step up and be HER MAN in the relationship.
In her eyes, a worthy man is able to protect her and who tries to always make her happy even when she IS happy. Someone who is always working towards a better relationship.
What she doesn’t want is someone who gets lazy and stops trying to ‘wow’ her. Similarly, she does not want a guy who is clingy and insecure all the time.
She wants and need a MAN!
Yes you need to know how to ‘pick up’ women but you also need to know what KEEPS her around.